Have You Lost Your MUCHNESS?

The Mad Hatter looked closely at Alice and said, “You’re not the same as you were before. You were much more…Muchier.” (From the 2010 movie Alice in Wonderland with Johnny Dep—check out Alice in Wonderland Muchness on YouTube!)

In the original story, Alice stumbled down a rabbit hole following a talking rabbit. Outrageous adventures followed and she boldly faced each one, asked questions and challenged answers. Alice traveled again to Wonderland as a 19-year old, chasing after the White Rabbit. But now she’s running away from the pain of losing her father, and from a marriage proposal she doesn’t want to accept. The bold child has been replaced by a reserved and unhappy young woman.

Alice doesn’t remember any part of her visit to Wonderland and the Wonderland gang argue that she couldn’t possibly be their Alice.

Dodo said, she is most certainly not our Alice; Dormouse said, you’d think she’d remember the last time she was here; Platypus said, eggsactually; White Rabbit said, I’m sure she’s the right one; Dodo said, watch her.

Of course none of us are the same as we were as kids. That’s good and bad. Good, because we can’t continue into adulthood with childhood expectations and demands. Bad, because we can lose our identity and some of our childhood expectations. Our “muchness.”

So what is muchness? An adventurous spirit? Bravery? Knowing who we ARE? As we get older we take fewer risks because we’re afraid of the potential outcome—and risk can imply that we don’t have control; scary business. In essence, we lose our muchness―it leaked away a little at a time.

What brave things did you do when you were younger that you can’t imagine doing now? Go ahead and take a moment to jot some thoughts down. Did you melt your crayons to see if you’d get pretty paint? Push the playground bully down? Move to a new town alone where you didn’t know anyone? Leave a job you thought was safe for one that offered less money but had greater potential?

Perhaps we lost our muchness when we began to build security around ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with security. We all love it. It’s so easy to collect a safety net of people and money and objects. Easy to nod and agree with people, and everyone is happy with us. But eventually we find that we aren’t taking any risks. We don’t even know who we are anymore.

So here’s the question: what do YOU need, what do you want? Do you even know? Do you give up your dreams just to ‘get along’? Where did You go? Did you become seduced by security and the fear of risk.

These fears and beliefs come from our experiences, assumptions and values. Something happens and we make up a belief that helps us make sense of what happened. Are you ready to challenge these beliefs? Do you want to discovery what is blocking your Muchness? If the answer is “Yes, I want my Muchness back!” then ask yourself if there is a belief that is blocking you in some way. For example, does agreeing with people so that they will like you, keep you from feeling good about yourself because you held back your opinion?

Here’s one way to state that belief, “If I tell people what I really think they won’t like.” Do you think the belief is always true or sometimes true or just maybe it is never true? Can you think of an example of when this belief was not true? Maybe it was never true or hasn’t been true in a very long time. Do you want to hold onto this belief?

Start with baby-steps and share who you are with those you trust and grow from there! Create a new belief: “If I tell people what I really think, they’ll be interested in my point of view and we’ll have a fabulous discussion!”

Start journaling your Muchness Journey! Find something you can do this week that will let you move forward in your new belief. Feeling freer?

Alice found her muchness, picked up the vorpal sword and with one powerful thrust, cut off the Jabberwocky’s head. Alice found her muchness and so will you!

Sue Ellis-Saller and the Business of Angels

Sue Ellis-Saller

Sue Ellis-Saller felt a calling to work with angels of all sorts and followed it. In 2012, she became a Certified Angel Card Reader™, (taught by Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine who are international speakers, teachers, and creators of the Angel Tarot Oracle decks). This was a natural progression of her nearly 25 years as a tarot reader and student of the esoteric. More recently, she began to tutor newly Certified Angel Card Readers™ in business basics.

Guided to help “spiritual entrepreneurs, earth angels, and light workers build their online business presences from the ground up,” Sue is doing just that. With her gentle advice and smart business sense ‘AngelPreneurs’ are getting the help they need to learn how to use social media and marketing, plan, and build their websites and, more importantly, “to keep the faith through the beginning phase of building a business—when things take time to grow.”

Inspired by all the people she was meeting who wanted to help the world become a better place, Sue started her Facebook page, Angel Business Basics, dedicated as a place for “Angel Business owners and Light Workers to share their business tips and tricks—and to learn some new things as well! [Sue wanted to create a]… safe and comfortable space to make connections with and interact with others!”

Almost instantly, people were asking to join the group, and asking for support to guide them through the struggles of coming out of the angel closet while starting their own businesses. Sue is the adviser, taking them through the steps of growing a business; helping people “who were struggling with the details of putting together a professional looking image for themselves.”  Today, the group has over 200 members, actively sharing and encouraging each other.

How did Sue come out of her own spiritual closet? 

Empathic from the age of five, Sue picked up far too easily on the emotions around her. “I grew up in a family that was very open to psychic energy and experiences, so I didn’t have to deal with a huge ‘coming out,’ as many others do. In my family, we grew up with stories of my grandparents’ psychic connection with each other. My dad studied astrology and my mom was always fascinated with supernatural and spiritual topics.”
Once upon a time, Sue had a different business: helping people with their websites, and mentoring them on creating businesses. Okay, maybe not so different. But when Sue wanted to work with spiritual entrepreneurs, and identified herself as one, her business partner didn’t want any part of it so—ultimately—they agreed to go their separate ways. Sue went on to give birth to her new business, Clear Vision Readings and Reiki—which was devoted to tarot and oracle card readings and Reiki.

Sue ‘holding space’ at Zurich event

Once Sue started on her spiritual business path, she couldn’t stop. She volunteered at Doreen Virtue’s events in Salzburg (2013) and Zurich (2014). “I learned a lot during those courses… [and]… I have read most of her (Doreen Virtue’s) angel therapy books,” and watched her videos.

In addition to business mentoring, Sue also offers readings, Reiki, workshops, classes, and advice through her lush website, sueellissaller.com. What else would you expect from a natural born healer and business woman?